It has often been said that no man is an island; indeed no man was created to stand alone. God, the Creator, stated in very clear terms that it is not good for man to be alone (Gen. 2:18), and that two are better than one in any circumstance (Eccl. 4:9).
Every relationship is a channel for either good or bad. The people you meet in life can either make or mar you.
There are connections that are corrupting influences: relationships that are more like journeying with Jonah, exposing you to thunder storms and endangering your life.
Yet, there are other relationships that build destinies and propel the wheels of progress: relationships that cover your nakedness, that shield and protect you from life’s tornadoes. Such was the type Lot had with Abraham that spared Lot from destruction. Lot exhibited a lot of stupidity in his decisions and actions but his connection to the friend of God (Abraham) saved his life.
Seeing that it is imperative to connect and build relationships with the right persons, how then do we define a good connection or relationship?
- A good relationship helps to curb your excesses.
It is having someone who is able to talk some sense into your head when you are going off track.
- A good relationship provides a shoulder to lean on in times of trials and challenges.
A friend indeed is one who is a friend in need.
- A good relationship fuels your spiritual passion.
Your connections should increase your desire for God and his kingdom. Unfortunately, many relationships are the very opposite, sapping spiritual energy like Delilah.
You cannot have contamination issues and hope to deliver Israel (Hos.7:8-9). It is therefore of utmost importance that you be connected to fire brands who can charge your passion for God.
- A good relationship ignites your mental and emotional capacities.
Your associations certainly have a way of affecting mental productivity and building you up or tearing you down emotionally. Iron sharpens iron, the bible declares (Prov. 27:17), and so does a man sharpen his fellow.
- A good relationship is an instrument for your next level.
A good person around your life can provide the necessary push you need for your breakthrough. Daniel needed his friends, Mordecai needed Esther, and Jesus needed John the Baptist. The paralytic needed his four friends to break the roof and him push him through (Matt. 9:1-8).
Needless to say, we all need good relationships to make life’s journey not only easier, but enjoyable and fun filled. However, if you desire to enjoy lasting friendships and connections, you must answer these salient questions:
- Are you willing to help curb the excesses of your friend/partner without being judgmental about it? And are you willing to submit yourself to correction and criticism in order to have your own excesses curbed?
- Are you dependable and can you be relied upon in times of need or difficulties?
- Do you charge spiritual batteries of your associates or do you fuel their carnal drive, and vice-versa?
- Are you an iron that sharpens by enhancing mental productivity and emotional well-being?
- Are you willing to go all the way, making costly sacrifices, to enhance and build your relationships?
Your sincere answers to these questions will determine how prepared you are for that good relationship and what sacrifices you are willing to make in order to ensure that it abides.